There are things you learn after trauma. Well, I guess technically you learn them during trauma, and then only have the wherewithal to realize or appreciate it fully after the storm has passed and you notice one day you’ve picked up a new tendency. Some of these learnings are interesting because they not only come in useful at moments of pain, but are also worth keeping in mind for facing the daily struggles and challenges of everyday life.

I used to joke that I’m covered with so many scars and war wounds, I’ve collected virtually all the character development consolation…


tl;dr or just the listening type? Here’s a nice static-y recording for you (maybe still scroll down for the doodles though!)

I like solving problems, and I also really like the feeling of making people happy, or at least un-sad. So VC’s big old diversity problem was perfect bait; an issue so messy and tangled it had defied solving for so long, and one which if solved would make lots of people un-sad. …


Most of us who hold marginalised, prejudged, underestimated and downright despised identities, but have somehow clawed our way to a seat at the proverbial table, inevitably find ourselves shouldering responsibility for changing the system from within.

Whether formally or informally, whether by request or because the survivor’s guilt won’t let us rest. We wear our regular job hat and at the same time that of Equality’s Champion. Watchdog, diagnostician, preacher, teacher, activist, panellist and everything else, rolled into one in service of dragging one’s team, organisation — hell, probably industry — forward and into the light.

There’s much I could…


For the third time this month, I’ve heard free speech defenders warning us that doom has come to our world courtesy of “the mob”.

Sarah Downey’s article above is definitely the most coherent and comprehensive version of the case I’ve heard, so I’m going to respond to that piece and to her specifically. It might help to pause here and go read it if you haven’t already…

Alright. Before we jump in, in case it needs saying, I’m obviously not writing this to have a row with Sarah personally, but rather because I think the points she’s making warrant…


Dear Allies*,

You will be tired. You may very well already be tired, and if you’re not, I promise you it’s coming. You need to understand what this tiredness is made of and you need to understand what it will take to ensure that it doesn’t wither away your new-found (or rediscovered) appetite for seeing the world as it really is and playing an active role in changing it for the better.

So as someone who has countless times been tired and has run away from the fight, only to get pulled back in because frankly, I don’t really have…


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This is a slightly modified version of a letter I wrote to my little brother recently. He said he found it helpful — right before he called me “too extra to function.” Maybe you’ll agree. On either count.

Dear Alex,

You’re a teenager now, and accordingly sitting square in the middle of that most awkward and discombobulating of times. Neither a child blissfully unaware and singularly uninterested in anything but primal needs, nor an adult with some semblance of control and answers to the interminable puzzle of how to be and how to live.

You couldn’t pay me to go…


Editor’s Note: Daisy Onubogu is BACKED’s brilliant Head of Network & Communities. She wrote this piece just before she joined us in Feb 2019.

Daisy. BACKED because…

So, it’s official. I’m on the move once more. This time, however, it feels like heading home.

Every year or so I sit down to sketch out the anatomy of my ideal career situation, taking into account everything I’ve learned up to that point. I try to drill down into exactly what I need in order to feel in situ, content, and primed to do my best work. …

Daisy Onubogu

More cat that woman. Head Networks @ Backed VC. Confused prosecco socialist muddling through.

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